Bengali marriage rituals are very similar to traditional Hindu rituals. Just like other Indian weddings, Bengali rituals are an amalgamation of traditional cultures along with modernity. If you are someone who had the chance to experience a Bengali wedding would agree that it is a delight to watch!
Usually, a Bengali Wedding is referred to as ‘Biye ’ and is a treat to watch. Bengali weddings are a host of deep, meaningful rituals seeped in culture and traditions. These rituals are performed amidst colourful and elegant creative decor. Bengali weddings are celebrations of colour, closeness and beauty.
Here are 7 surprising Bengali Marriage Rituals that you need to know about:
Another version of a Bridal shower! It takes place in the afternoon or the night before the wedding day. Usually, all close friends and relatives gather at the bride’s house and shower her with gifts and blessings. Then she is treated with an elaborate feast which includes rice, fish and several vegetable dishes, mostly all her favourites. It is said that this is her last meal as a spinster. A similar ritual is practised at the groom’s place where he takes his last meal as a bachelor.
2. The Tatwa Bengali Wedding Ritual
Pronounced as ‘Tawtto’ in Bengali, where gifts are exchanged between both the sides of families. One interesting thing about this is, these gifts are in the form of groom and bride. They are really adorable and delicious at the same time! This is a tradition where creative minds can showcase their creativity and bring out the best Tatwa design.
3. Shuva Drishti
This ritual is the one where everyone is excited due to the Ulu dhvani excitement. In this ritual, the bride hides her face with beetle leaves and her brothers lifts her up to the mandap. Bride’s face is then decorated with intricate designs with the sandalwood paste, as the sandalwood is supposed to keep her calm yet energetic. Then, the bride and the groom exchange garlands before sitting on the mandap.
4. Gaye Halud
It is really similar to the Haldi ceremony in Hindu weddings. But in Bengali weddings, this ritual is known as ‘Gaye Halud’. Interestingly, in this ritual, the bride sits on a ‘Piri,’ a plank as applies Haldi on her face. This turmeric paste is usually applied by all the married women of the house. After this, the bride wears ‘Shakha Paula,’ which are special bangles made of shell and coral. In other terms, this is similar to wearing choodha.
5. Bashar Ghor
After the wedding ceremony, the groom has to spend the night at the wedding venue or at the bride’s home. A group of cousins and friends from both sides try and keep the couple awake. This is the time where the beautiful bridesmaids play an important role as their job is to keep the couple entertained all night with jokes, songs and lots of talks.
6. Saat Paak
‘Saat Paak’ is one of the interesting of all Bengali marriage rituals. In this, the bride sits on a low wooden stool called ‘pidi’. This stool is then lifted by her brothers and the bride is taken around the groom seven times. This ritual is to wind up the couple securely to each other.
In this Bengali marriage ritual, an offering of puffed rice is made into the yagna (fire) by the bride and the groom. The bride’s brother hands over these puffed rice to the bride, while the groom holds her hand to pour the offering into the yagna together.
Let us know which of these Bengali marriage rituals you found interesting!